A Mother’s Perspective Of ADHD

I HAVE to share this with you… it is so powerful! Keep in mind, I did NOT write this! It was beautifully written by Rachael Simmon.  As a person with ADHD, I’m also the mother of 3 children with ADHD, and this couldn’t be more perfectly stated….

  I sit here alone, as I often do,   Looking through pictures, pictures of you,

I think of the good times as a family we’ve had,

But, lately, they seem far outweighed by the bad.

I know you’re unhappy and it makes my heart ache.

If wishes came true, then your place I’d take.

Your head is filled with anger.  Your heart is full of pain.

For you, I am fighting, but I’m feeling the strain.

I’m not always patient.  Sometimes I get mad.

I scream and I shout, and Lord, I feel bad.

 ‘Cause the last thing you need is more anger and hate.

Cause you’ve had plenty of that in your life to date.

No one knows of the loneliness or the tears that are shed.

They don’t care how you’re feeling, or whats going on in your head.

 They see a boy naughty, what a pain you can be.

They should try living with ADHD.

This morning “you hate me.”   I’m sure that you don’t.

“I’ll hate you forever.”  I’m sure that you won’t.

Whatever you say, and whatever you do,  the fact will remain, that I’ll always love you.

I pray for you daily.  I cry for you too.  I cry for my child to no longer be blue.

  So if there is a God, and he’s listening to me,

Please try lessening the heartache of  ADHD.

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July 10, 2018

Hey Readers!  I’m back!  I’m sorry it has been so long since I’ve written.  A lot has happened in my little world since my last post.  And a lot is going on currently.  I’ve finally maxed out on my dose of ADHD medicine, and it still isn’t lasting long enough.  Time to move on to something different.  And with everything going on, I really could use more focus!

I’ve been very pleased to see that my adult ADD (ADHD) Facebook page is growing at a steady rate.  It’s getting the word out there about mental illness and adult ADHD, in particular.  You can visit my page by clicking the link…  MyAdultADDPage

Those of us with these ‘invisible’ issues tend to be the most isolated.  We think that we are all alone and no one understands what we’re going through.  Just because we don’t look sick, we’re treated as such.  That’s just not fair.     “It’s all in your head”, they say. “Why can’t you just snap out of it”, they ask. “Get your shit together”, they scold.    That’s like demanding that a paraplegic get up from his wheelchair and miraculously walk!  It’s just NOT gonna happen.  Mental illness is a combination of biological and psychological factors.  Chemical imbalances and non-existent neuro pathways cause chaos in the brain.  Chaos that some folks live with on a day to day basis because they go undiagnosed.  Diagnosis is key.  Awareness is everything.  Medication and therapy can help.

Sorry, for a moment there I thought I was writing on my page. lol  Forgot where I was.  See, right there, perfect example…  ADHD at it’s finest, forgot where I was on the internet!  I’m done. lol

Missing You On Mother’s Day

I miss going to the greenhouse to pick out the perfect hanging basket of pink petunias.🌸They were her favorite. I miss picking out a new set of blue plaid dishtowels, in just the right country shade to match her kitchen. I miss standing in the greeting card aisle, tearing up, as I read the heart-felt sediments in each lovely note. 😥

    Every now and again, I look at your pictures and wonder how I could ever charish a piece paper more. At times, I still hear your voice and it almost sounds like a song in my head.🎶 And sometimes I think no one could ever love me more than you did. Thank you for being the example I needed you to be.

I now know what it means to be a mother, and it’s a labor of love that requires a special kind of person. You were my person! Thank you for being my Mom! 😊

Happy Mother’s Day in Heaven! I love you! ❤😇❤

He Will Succeed With ADD/ADHD

Newly diagnosed, yet, full of promise. I vow to not fail my child with ADD, as I was so obviously failed myself. We’ve attained the diagnosis and are armed with the medicine to help manage his distractibility. It doesn’t end there though, children with ADD/ADHD have often built up a negative self image.  And, by the time they are diagnosed, self esteem problems are already there. I have to make sure my child knows he’s not damaged or dumb, he has to know that his brain is just wired differently.  I have to challenge myself to be the best example I can be. As a mom with ADD, I have to make my boy proud, I have to set a perfect example of a successful life with ADHD.

MY God,  did I say that? A successful life with ADHD ? Is that even possible? I’m 43 and far from a success. How will I ever do this? I could use some good references.

Wish me the best of luck as I lovingly try to raise a successful ADDer!

ADHD Confirmed; A New Diagnosis

Happy Sunday all! Hope your day is beautifully blessed! I’m looking forward to a productive week. I’m ready, focused and eager for Monday. I just love the start of a new week.

Speaking of starts;  my brave, handsome, struggling son, will begin taking medication for his ADHD.  This whole school year has been more challenging than we expected.  And, at the observance of his teacher, we made an appointment with the pediatrician.  We answered all the questions, voiced our concerns, and with one swift jot of his pen, the doctor made his diagnosis:  ADHD, inattentive type.  The dr believes that a small dose of Adderall is all he’ll need to help focus while at school.  I’m very optimistic!  I know that with true ADHD, there isn’t anything else that helps.wp-image-1807980473

Talk therapy and behavior modification are, in my opinion, kind of ineffective when dealing with ADHD issues.  Talking about our shortcomings won’t fix them, and just try to correct an impulsive child, ha! Good luck!  For me, I feel that medication is the way to go.  I chose medication when I was diagnosed at 27yo, and I WISH I had been medicated sooner!  I struggled with all aspects of my life before my diagnosis, so that is why I am choosing medication therapy for my son.  He struggles enough already,  and I’m on a mission to not let ADHD define my kid.  I just want him to “feel” like everyone else. Because he knows he’s a little different, he understands that he has to work a little harder.  I’m really hoping the Adderall does its job and brings my child the clarity and focus he needs.  I don’t want him to work harder, I want him to work smarter!

A Special Letter

I want to write a letter.  The kind of letter that you re-read, over and over.  The letter I want to write will bring tears to your eyes, if only i could find the words.  I need to explain to her the love that I feel.  A love that cannot possibly be expressed into words.  My heart is bursting, my words should be flowing like water; where do I begin?  I don’t know if i can accurately describe this depth of love.  wp-image-1244416427