Everything You Need To Know About Girls With ADHD

Not Ditzy. Not Lazy. And Definitely Not Dumb.

Girls with ADHD are called many things before they ever receive an accurate diagnosis. Here is everything you need to know about ADHD in girls and women, so you – or your daughter – don’t slip through the cracks.

by the editors of ADDitude
ADHD Is for Women, Too

Girls and boys currently are diagnosed with ADHD at a ratio of about 1 to 3. This doesn’t mean that fewer girls have ADHD; it means more girls are going undiagnosed. When left undiagnosed, ADHD can take a toll on a female’s emotional health and general well-being, leaving them with low self-confidence and psychological damage.
Differences in ADHD Symptoms

ADHD girls are often overlooked because they exhibit hyperactivity differently. For example, in a classroom setting, a boy might blurt out answers or repeatedly tap his foot, whereas a girl might demonstrate hyperactivity by talking incessantly. A girl who talks all the time is often viewed by the teacher as chatty, not hyper or problematic — and thus is less likely to be recommended for an ADHD evaluation.
Inattentive ADHD

Another reason why ADHD girls fly under the radar is that they’re more likely than boys to suffer from inattentive ADHD. The symptoms of this sub-type (which include poor attention to detail, limited attention span, forgetfulness, and distractibility) tend to be less disruptive and obvious than those of hyperactive ADHD. Put simply, a (hyperactive) boy who repeatedly bangs on his desk gets noticed, and helped, before the (inattentive) girl who twirls her hair while staring out the window.
Coping Mechanisms

Some girls compensate for their ADHD by developing strategies that mask the symptoms. To ensure she gets a good grade, a girl may become a perfectionist and spend hours taking meticulous notes on every chapter she’s being tested on, or become obsessive-compulsive, and check and recheck her backpack to make sure she has everything.
Social Struggles

ADHD gender differences can also affect a girl’s social life. Research shows that girls with ADHD may be rejected more often by their peers than boys. Compared to boys, girls’ friendships require greater sophistication and more maintenance. For example, two boys can meet on the playground and start digging a hole with their shovels, and they’re instant friends. Friendship among girls requires picking up on social cues and bonding, something girls with ADHD may have trouble with.
The Price of ADHD in Girls

The self-esteem of girls with ADHD also appears to be more impaired than that of boys with ADHD. It’s not surprising, then, that the condition can take a toll on a female’s emotional health and general well-being. Girls with ADHD tend to have more mood disorders, depression, anxiety, and self-esteem problems than non-ADHD girls. Girls with ADHD are at a greater risk for problems ranging from low academic achievement to drug and alcohol abuse, and even suicide attempts.
Public Perceptions of Girls

Girls with the hyperactive type of ADHD may be diagnosed earlier, but are often stigmatized more than boys with the same diagnosis. Kids on the playground regard impulsivity and distraction as boyish. Boys are more likely to get a pass from other kids and teachers, especially if their symptoms aren’t severe. Hyperactive boys are just “being boys,” while hyperactive girls get ostracized.
Expectations of Wives and Mothers

Women are taught to be “pleasers,” and often put unrealistic demands on themselves as they try to balance family and a career. When women with ADHD marry and have kids, many feel shame. Society expects tremendous feats of memory and organization from moms, from keeping track of critical facts about teachers to organizing meals and schedules. Without treatment or help, many women feel inept.
Getting Help

If you believe that your daughter may have ADHD, do not to wait for the teacher to express concern before seeking a doctor’s evaluation. Teachers usually look for hyperactivity, disorganization, or forgetfulness as the signs of ADHD before recommending an evaluation, but the way ADHD often expresses itself in girls — excessive talking, poor self-esteem, worrying, perfectionism, risk-taking, and nosiness — is seldom read as such.
Adult Diagnosis: Relief

Any woman who suspects she has ADHD should educate herself about the condition—and consult a mental-health professional who specializes in the field. ADHD is strongly hereditary, and many women seek help as adults because a light bulb goes off when they have a child who is diagnosed with ADHD. For most women diagnosed later in life, it is a relief to finally have an explanation for why they are the way they are.
Different Treatment

ADHD not only presents different symptoms in girls and boys, but it often requires a different treatment strategy. Both genders benefit from stimulant medications, but girls may also need treatment for anxiety. Some girls cannot tolerate stimulants without extra pharmaceutical support.
Spread the Word

The medical community is starting to wake up to the fact that ADHD is a big problem for girls and that the condition often persists into adulthood, but we need to spread the word. Here are some great resources for starting a dialogue about women and girls with ADHD:
7 Leading Ladies with ADHD
Step Up and Speak Out About ADHD
The Many Faces of ADHD
ADHD Self-Test for Women