I miss going to the greenhouse to pick out the perfect hanging basket of pink petunias, they were her favorite. I miss picking out a new set of plaid dishtowels, in just the right shade of country-blue to match her kitchen. I miss standing in the greeting card aisle, tearing up, as I read each and every heart-felt sediment.
Every now and again, I look at your pictures and wonder how I could ever cherish a piece paper more. At times, I’ll hear your voice, and it sounds sweet like a song. And, I’ll always know that no one could ever love me more than you did, Mom. Our relationship wasn’t perfect, and many questions will, forever, go unanswered, but, I know you were exactly who I needed you to be. Being a mother; it’s a labor of love that requires a special kind of person. You were my person!
Newly diagnosed, yet, full of promise. I vow to not fail my child with ADD, as I was so obviously failed myself. We’ve attained the diagnosis and are armed with the medicine to help manage his distractibility. It doesn’t end there though, children with ADD/ADHD have often built up a negative self image. And, by the time they are diagnosed, self esteem problems are already there. I have to make sure my child knows he’s not damaged or dumb, he has to know that his brain is just wired differently. I have to challenge myself to be the best example I can be. As a mom with ADD, I have to make my boy proud, I have to set a perfect example of a successful life with ADHD.
MY God, did I say that? A successful life with ADHD ? Is that even possible? I’m 43 and far from a success. How will I ever do this? I could use some good references.
Wish me the best of luck as I lovingly try to raise a successful ADDer!
Happy Sunday all! Hope your day is beautifully blessed! I’m looking forward to a productive week. I’m ready, focused and eager for Monday. I just love the start of a new week.
Speaking of starts; my brave, handsome, struggling son, will begin taking medication for his ADHD. This whole school year has been more challenging than we expected. And, at the observance of his teacher, we made an appointment with the pediatrician. We answered all the questions, voiced our concerns, and with one swift jot of his pen, the doctor made his diagnosis: ADHD, inattentive type. The dr believes that a small dose of Adderall is all he’ll need to help focus while at school. I’m very optimistic! I know that with true ADHD, there isn’t anything else that helps.
Talk therapy and behavior modification are, in my opinion, kind of ineffective when dealing with ADHD issues. Talking about our shortcomings won’t fix them, and just try to correct an impulsive child, ha! Good luck! For me, I feel that medication is the way to go. I chose medication when I was diagnosed at 27yo, and I WISH I had been medicated sooner! I struggled with all aspects of my life before my diagnosis, so that is why I am choosing medication therapy for my son. He struggles enough already, and I’m on a mission to not let ADHD define my kid. I just want him to “feel” like everyone else. Because he knows he’s a little different, he understands that he has to work a little harder. I’m really hoping the Adderall does its job and brings my child the clarity and focus he needs. I don’t want him to work harder, I want him to work smarter!